Friday, September 30, 2011

Day 2- 9 LOVES


Day 2- 9 loves

1. Dax and Dustin.... DUH!

2. My bonus kiddo, Kyleigh. Without her we wouldn't be a complete family.

3. Family picture day, I love documenting the age of our kiddos, the light in their eyes, joy in their smiles and the love we all share.

4. Mc Donald's Sweet Tea and also White Chocolate Mochas, non fat and hot please :-p oo ooo and Starbuck's Hot Caramel Apple Cider

5. FALL, I just love the crispness in the air, warm sweaters, jeans and pumpkin patch visits with friends

6. Planning! Christmas is already in the works, I know all the meals we will eat in October and Dax's bday is already in the works. :-)

7. getting my hair cut, how do you think my hair got so short a few years ago? Hair cut every 6 weeks before having Dax. Ha!

8. Old Navy Yoga Pants. Most comfortable article of clothing I have EVER owned!

9. Birthday pedicures with Leah

Thursday, September 29, 2011

10 Day YOU Challenge- Day 1


I am taking it... the 10 day You Challenge... anyone else want to??

Okay Day 1... 10 Secrets...

1. My name is Becky and I am addicted to shopping online. :-p

2. I miss my classroom.

3. I sing in the car and think I sound good... but only when I'm by myself do I sound good. :-p

4. I have only held 1 grudge my whole life. I'm still holding on to it too.

5. The only time I drive the speed limit is when Dax is in the car. Otherwise I am almost always 5 over.

6. I have to talk things through to feel better about them. Several of my friends know this but because of my anxiety disorder I 'circle' subjects for a long time before letting them go.

7. I am truly terrified to have a daughter someday... so not sure we'll have another baby. If I knew I would have another little boy I would talk Dustin into having a baby.

8. When Dustin and I were neighbors in 1st grade I used to make him play Barbies and House with me.

9. I want to be a stay at home mom. (Not really sure that is a secret)

10. I regret my college years. I still to this day wish I had spent more time on campus and made more friends. I LOVED Whitworth and my experience there... just wish I'd had more of it.

Monday, September 26, 2011

Rest in Peace

One of my classmates from high school passed away this morning after a hard fought battle with stage 4 cancer. It hit me harder than I expected. I closed my office door and cried. Really cried. I avoided all those around my office for a long time not wanting to make eye contact with anyone but grateful to have to go to a meeting and face the world again. I don't quite know why I feel this deep sadness. I think it's because I don't know how I would deal with losing Dustin like Jessica lost Mike.

To say Mike Carpenter or his wife Jessica were my friends is slightly inaccurate. I grew up with Mike and we stayed more as acquaintances over the years - I wouldn't say we were close by any means. I knew who they were, they knew who I was but I don't think I've spoken to either since high school. Nevertheless, they are both very sweet people and were/are very much in love with one another. You can just see it in their pictures on Facebook. They loved each other through thick and thin. To love and be loved in return, does it get any better than that?

I find it hard to think of the words I really want to write. What I want to get off my chest. It's hard to know that someone who was the same age as you, someone who's Mom worked with your Mom and they were pregnant at the same time, to think that person is gone from this world. I just can't get my head around it. It's a lost feeling. If I feel this lost I can't imagine what his wife must be feeling or the rest of his family. It just makes no sense to me why such horrible things happen to good people...

Why is a question I think we ask so much at times like this. Why did God take Mike? Why did God do this? I have always said (stolen from Mother Theresa) that God doesn't give us more than we can handle... but I wish he wouldn't trust us so much. God must be very trusting of the Carpenter family.

I am grateful to know that Mike is without pain. I am grateful that he no longer has cancer. I am grateful that now he can be free to fish, hike, run, and do anything he wants without the burdens of this world. I am thankful to know and believe that one day he will be reunited with his family and his beautiful wife.


I stole this from Sissy's Song by Allan Jackson...and changed the she to he



He flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels

By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees

And He walks with Jesus and his loved ones waiting

And I know he's smiling saying

Don't worry 'bout me.

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Remembering 9/11/01

Where were you when the world stopped turning?

On September 11th, 2001 I woke up in a horrible mood. Why? Because I had just ended a relationship with a horrible boyfriend who was verbally abusive and extremely controlling. While I should have felt great relief in this, I was actually terrified because he had also threatened to kill himself and me. Not a great thing for a senior in high school to deal with.

So that morning as I came up the stairs in a really crumby mood to head out the door to school I remember my Mom saying 'you have to see this' and pointing to the TV. I remember looking at it and thinking why do I care what is going on across the country. I remember saying "I don't care" to her and walking out the door. Boy would those words come back to haunt me. When I got to school the gravity of what was actually happening to our country was really hitting.

All of a sudden it didn't matter to me what I had gone through the last few months or the night before. It did feel like the world stopped turning on 9/11/2001.

I remember clearly watching the TV all day long. Being glued to the happenings in New York , DC and Pennsylvania. I remember crying. I remember suddenly being so worried when I remembered that one of our very close family friends now lived in PA and who's father in law was working in New York. I remember being scared, really scared because of the unknown-ness of what was to come.

If anything good came from those days following the attacks it was wanting to be that much closer and in touch with our family, friends and our country. About a week after the attack I road on the Chewelah float as one of the princesses in Odessa, Washington. It was a wonderful parade but a somber one as well. I have never been to the parade there before or since so I don't know if this is normal but there were so many boy scouts, veterans and other service men and women being honored throughout the parade. There were also so many flags and flag pins to show support for those affected by 9/11 and also to raise money to send to the many fundraisers going on throughout our country. Even us princesses waved flags throughout the entire parade instead of our hands. It felt good to pay respect to our country in a public way.

About a month after the attacks I was at a snowmobile race and someone announced over the loud speakers that we had launched our attack on terrorists. I remember hearing cheers and applause and then I remember thinking... what does that really mean though. It's not like we can do that without risking the lives of our people once again. I also remember people leaving the races because they were afraid there might be immediate retaliation.

The summer following the attacks we went to New York for a family wedding. We got to see Ground Zero in person and I remember thinking how huge it was and trying to imagine what it must have looked like before.

One of the eeriest and probably deepest felt thing we did on that trip was ride the Staten Island Ferry. One of our friends had told us that when we were halfway across to turn back and look at the New York sky line. She said in that moment try to picture what those towers must have looked like before. Then to be sitting on the ferry and think of what it would have been like to be standing in that very spot and watch a plane fly into the tower because someone was standing in that very spot on 9/11 and someone actually watched it happen. I remember the lump in my throat thinking of whomever had been in my spot just a few months prior. I also remember saying a prayer for those affected by 9/11.

Where were you when the world stopped turning on that September day? Were you in the yard with your wife and children Or working on some stage in L.A.? Did you stand there in shock at the sight of that black smoke Risin' against that blue sky? Did you shout out in anger, in fear for your neighbor Or did you just sit down and cry? Did you weep for the children who lost their dear loved ones And pray for the ones who don't know? Did you rejoice for the people who walked from the rubble And sob for the ones left below? Did you burst out in pride for the red, white and blue And the heroes who died just doin' what they do? Did you look up to heaven for some kind of answer And look at yourself and what really matters? [Chorus:] I'm just a singer of simple songs I'm not a real political man I watch CNN but I'm not sure I can tell you the difference in Iraq and Iran But I know Jesus and I talk to God And I remember this from when I was young Faith, hope and love are some good things He gave us And the greatest is love Where were you when the world stopped turning on that September day? Were you teaching a class full of innocent children Or driving down some cold interstate? Did you feel guilty 'cause you're a survivor In a crowded room did you feel alone? Did you call up your mother and tell her you loved her? Did you dust off that Bible at home? Did you open your eyes, hope it never happened Close your eyes and not go to sleep? Did you notice the sunset the first time in ages Or speak to some stranger on the street? Did you lay down at night and think of tomorrow Or go out and buy you a gun? Did you turn off that violent old movie you're watchin' And turn on "I Love Lucy" reruns? Did you go to a church and hold hands with some strangers Did you stand in line and give your own blood? Did you just stay home and cling tight to your family Thank God you had somebody to love? [Repeat Chorus 2x] And the greatest is love. And the greatest is love.

Where were you when the world stopped turning that September day?

Saturday, September 10, 2011

10 on 10-September

Ten pictures from my day...
wish I had remembered this project first thing in the morning...
missed some prime morning Dax shots, darn!

I just love the old chicken coop on our property
Had to get a shot of it :-)

Fall colors!

Can you say YUM!?
Vanilla Yogurt with Blueberry pie filling!

It was at least 90 degrees today but the kittens still curled up together to nap

Mama and Dax

Dakota sneaking in a lick

Sweet little white butterfly on my lavender

Beautiful sunflowers from my Grandma's house
sorry it's sideways, couldn't get the darn thing to turn

Mom and I were laughing because this squash was almost as big as Dax.

Carrying the freshly cut sunflowers inside